Are you in Neurodivergent Burnout? 

Written By Kate G

Are you feeling totally exhausted? Do even small daily tasks feel impossible? You might be experiencing neurodivergent burnout.

This is more than just being tired. It happens when your brain and body are working too hard in a world that isn’t built for neurodivergent people.

As a neurodivergent therapist, I want you to know: burnout is not your fault. Your brain and body are just telling you to slow down. Recovery is not about “fixing yourself.” It’s about resting, taking care of yourself, and finding ways to live that work for you.

What Burnout Feels Like

Some common signs of burnout include:

  • Feeling exhausted even after sleeping

  • Wanting to avoid people or activities

  • Trouble remembering things or making decisions (brain fog)

  • Difficulty getting through everyday tasks

Burnout is often linked to masking — hiding your neurodivergent traits to fit in (Higgins et al., 2021; Arnold et al., 2021). That said you might be wondering “so what now??”

Here are some steps you can take to return to your baseline.

Step 1: Give Yourself Permission to Rest

Your body and brain need a break. This can look like:

  • Temporarily reducing responsibilities

  • Unmasking in safe spaces

  • Taking quiet sensory breaks (think dark room with noise-cancelling headphones and a weighted blanket)

Even a few minutes of rest — like stepping outside, closing your eyes, or holding something comforting — can help your system start to recover.

Step 2: Pay Attention to Your Needs

Recovery is about finding what actually helps you feel calm and safe. Ask yourself:

  • What helps me feel calm or focused? Is it listening to the Endel App? Working alone with headphones on?

  • What routines and systems make life easier for me?

  • Where can I feel safe and accepted as I am?

Living your life in a way that actually works for you rather than against you can be really empowering! 

Step 3: Reframe What Recovery Means

Recovery doesn’t mean going back to how you were before burnout. It means:

  • Setting boundaries that fit your needs

  • Taking small, manageable steps

  • Listening to your body 

You are not lazy or failing. You are learning how to live in a way that works for your neurodivergent brain.

Step 4: Find Support That Understands

If you choose therapy, look for someone who understands neurodivergent burnout. Therapy should be:

  • Neurodivergent-informed (you probably want a therapist who understands how your brain works and can help you find ways to work with it)

  • Supportive and understanding (affirming therapists will slow down and work with you in a way that doesn't overwhelm you)

  • Focused on helping you feel capable and better understand yourself

  • It is not about changing who you are

 

 References

  • Higgins, J.M., Arnold, S.R.C., Weise, J., Pellicano, E., & Trollor, J.N. (2021). Defining autistic burnout through experts by lived experience: Grounded Delphi method investigating #AutisticBurnout.

  • Arnold, S.R.C., Higgins, J.M., Weise, J., Pellicano, E., & Trollor, J.N. (2021). Defining Autistic Burnout Through Experts by Lived Experience: Grounded Delphi Method Investigating #AutBurnout.


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Kate G